Sunday, November 23, 2014

Never Give Up

Recently my wonderful husband made a choice. A choice as he would say would leave him empty handed. His sense of humor has carried him through one of the hardest times in his life. I have watched in total amazement as he has embraced what was "handed" to him. He lost his right arm from a long hard battle of surgeries and chronic pain. The choice was for a quality of life that before was and endless endevour of pain that limited the daily enjoyment of life. Putting total faith in our Heavenly Father that things would work out knowing it will not be easy. You have no idea what you use your arms for until they are gone. Ray could totally use the poor me card but holds his head high and learns how to do things differently. He has taught me if there is a will there's a RAY. Never Give Up!

Tuesday, October 28, 2014

Our Humble Prayer

On This bright October day as the sun shines through the hospital window. I reflecte on the things that was lost the day before. My loving husband lost his right arm. He was making jokes right until he went in. "Honey, I will still have one good arm to hug you with" As he hugs me with his left arm. Today my heart is full of gratitude of the things we are given. Way more than we lose. To feel both arms of my savior hugging me as I know my husband will be perfect once again. 

The struggles we may face we don't have to walk alone. We have our sisters in heaven who look out for those in need. I am very blessed to have them circle around me to lift us up. So thankful for my favorite red headed daughter who is taking so great care of my kids worries and tears. My oldest boy who is there to physically kick their butt when they get out of line. Also, my wonderful ward family who have circled their chuck wagons around us to share their food. 

As a sister in heaven, a daughter of a Kiing, and a little sister of our wonderful Savior. They know and feel our love, tears and pain. They know our circumstance and are there, if we only take a moment and let them carry us. As I pour out my prayers for my husband to stay positive and to never give up. We will be given more than we have lost.

I am thankful for my husband, my savior, my sisters and my family. I love each and every one of you.

Love K

Monday, October 20, 2014

Prepared to lose It

My husband this week made a decision that would change the rest of his life. He teasingly makes up jokes About  loosing his right arm. His famous one is he would give his right arm to be out of pain. If you haven't guessed he has decided to have his right Arm amputated. After 20 years and 20 surgeries he is done with the pain. He finally begged the doctor once again to just take it. I am definitely the more negative one of us. I noticed that he never looks down or around he just moves forward. He trips a few times but never gives up. I wish I had that faith that he does. He talks about later in the next life he will have his arm back. So this is just an inconvenience for a short matter of time. He will be fine and is just looking for the bionic arm he can get with all the attachments. We were looking at prothstetics and he said it had to be made out of titanium. Because he is sure that everyone who needs one wasn't doing what the were suppose to in the first place. My lesson from my husband is don't look back and have no regrets. Heavenly Father knows all of our situations and it is how we deal with it that matters. Have Faith, Be prepared when you are about to lose it.

Love K

Sunday, October 12, 2014

Ten Virtues

I ran across the Ten Virtues from Gordan B Hinkley. 

Ten Virtues That Will Heal Our Hearts and Homes.

Now who wouldn't want to try this.....?

LOVE

Love is the only force that can erase the difference between people or bridge the chasms of bitterness. Love is like the Polar Star. In a changing world, it is constant. It is the security of the home. It is a beacon of hope in a world of distress.

HONESTY

Men and women of integrity understand intrinsically that theirs is the precious right to hold their heads in the sunlight of truth, unashamed before anyone.

MORALITY 

Both experience and divine wisdom dictate that moral virtue and cleanliness pave the way that leads to strength of character, peace of mind and heart, and happiness in life.

CIVILITY 

Civility carries with it the essence of courtesy, politeness, and consideration of others. All of the education and accomplishments in the world will not count for much unless they are accompanied by marks of gentility of respect for others of going the extra mile.

LEARNING 

No matter how old we become, we can acquire knowledge and use it. We can gather wisdom and profit from it. We can grow and progress and improve, and, in the process, strengthen the lives of those within our circle of influence.

FORGIVENESS 

The willingness to forgive is a sign of spiritual and emotional maturity. Imagine a world filled with indivduals willing to both apologize and accept an apology. Is there any problem that could not be solved among people who processed the humility and largeness of spirit and soul to do either---or both---when needed?

THRIFT And INDUSTRY

I commend to all virtues of industry and thrift, which I believe go hand in hand. The labor and thrift of the people make a nation, community, or a family strong. Work and thrift make the family independent.

GRATITUDE 
Gratitude is the beginning of civility,decency and goodness, of recognition that we can not afford to be arrogant. We should walk in with the knowledge that we will need help every step of the way.

OPTIMISM 

My plea is that we stop seeking our storms and enjoy more fully the sunlight. I am suggesting that as we go through life, we "Accentuate the positive." I am asking that we look a little deeper for the good, that we still our voices of insult and sarcasm, that we more generously compliment and endorse virtue and effort. 

FAITH 

Great buildings were never constructed on uncertain foundations. Great causes were never brought to success by vacillating leaders. Faith has always, and always must be, at the root of any meaningful practice and endeavor.

You may not be able to change another but, we can look at ourselves and try to become a better person with these ten virtues.

Love K

Monday, September 29, 2014

Sisters

This week I have been consumed with the fear of failure. The fear that I may not be a perfect Mother, Sister, Friend and even employee. I lost the faith in myself and the path that Heavenly Father has set before me. I was feeling a little bit sorry for myself. I had my self a nice little pity party. I felt little bit of emptiness and a few tears. Then I had a cute little Sister in Heaven reminded me at how important it is to focus on the positive. That we are all in this together and we can help support each other along the way. It's amazing what a warm smile, hug or just a note may brighten a sisters day. It is more than blood, we are part of a bigger family. We have an amazing bigger brother who is the greatest example of all. Let's make him proud by helping and supporting our Sisters in Heaven.

"Even though clouds may come my way........Sunshine will always follow."

Tuesday, September 23, 2014

Recovery

So, have you ever felt like you were justified treating your love one who is addicted in a very mean way. because you don't have an addiction. Addiction can come in all shapes and sizes. But, really we are all here on earth to overcome the natural man. We feel that because we don't have a problem means we can manipulate, lie, yell and scream at an addict. This creates chaos in the home and can even be more damaging than the actions of an addict. How we react to problems we face is really the test. My husband would love to get blessings when he was drinking. I asked the bishop is that a good idea to be doing in that state of mind. He turned to me and asked "Would Jesus do it?". It was an eye opener for me as I just humbly shook my head yes. It is so very hard to not judge an addict because we feel that we are better than them. But, really we need recovery or to repent for the many horrible things we have done to our loved ones. So, hug your addict today and say sorry for the way you have treated them.

Saturday, September 20, 2014

Admitting to the Truth

Admitting to the truth that I can not rescue my loved one from addiction and the attempts to do so have made my life unmanageable. I have taken on the responsibility of things that were not mine. I was unaware of my change of focus from Christ to myself. When you become so involved in protecting loved ones from the addicted you loose sight of what can be a comfort in the rough times. Build your relationship with god he will lighten your load and ease your burden. I do not have the power to change anyone but I can change my focus and accept the help to manage my life. Love K

Friday, September 12, 2014

Love the addict not the choice

When a loved one is an addict and you have no choice. I always feel all alone when my loved one is making a choice that is not exactly the choice I would want them too. I try to go on with life as I know it. But, when my husband drinks it feels like I just lost my best friend. I have this anger that builds up inside because I can't control another person but, at the time I wish I could. I say a ton of prayers mixed with tears hoping that I can find a little peace. My heart breaks knowing it's hard to make sense out of why they do it when they have people in there lives that care so much. You start to feel abandoned and build up walls so you can't be hurt again. I have a hard time not being pulled into an argument. But you can't negotiate with an addict of any sort. It pointless, that is why it's frustrating. It can really get you down. If you can turn your mind and heart to the savior he can help you find some peace and understanding. You have not control over another that is what Satans plan was control. Jesus's plan was to let everyone choose for themselves. Thumbing through the scriptures I came across 1 Peter 3, The heading stuck out like it was highlighted in florescent yellow.

In the heading it reads

Husbands and wives should honor each other.

What???????

But, what if one is making a bad choice???

Of course I want to know the answer.

Verse 1

Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husband; that, if any obey not the word they also may without the word be won by conversations of the wives.

hmmmmm.

Reading on....

8. Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous.

This is hard for me. I ain't gonna lie.

10. For  he that will love life, and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil, and his lips that speak no guile:

I have been know to do that:

14. But and if ye suffer for righteousness sake, happy are ye: and be not afraid of their terror, neither be troubled.

18. For Christ also hath once suffered for sins, the just for the unjust, that he might bring us to God, being put to death in the flesh but quickened by the spirit.


This has helped me recognize we can still honor those who make bad choices because they may someday change. Jesus Christ suffered so we may have the atonement and a way to fix our wrongs. Just because someone makes a bad choice does not mean you don't honor them. but, be courteous and have good conversations not belittle out of anger and spite. That is not why we are here.

Love another today.....No matter the choice they make.

Kindness is Free

Today I witnessed something that made me smile. I can't stop thinking about it so I want to share it. I had just finished class and I was in a huge hurry. I almost got to class and a guy stopped me. He couldn't speak much English but he had a tiny baby bird in his hand. The bird was hurt and I could tell it was going to die soon. He came to the vet science building to see who could help. I could see how passionate he was about saving the bird. I pointed him in the right direction. Afterwards I got thinking, not many people would do that. That small act of kindness not only saved the bird but it gave me hope and it opened my eyes. Small acts of kindness can make someone's day so much better. Even if it's not to another person, even if it's for an animal. I'm going to strive to go out of my way to help people and animals around me. It only takes a second to do a kind deed for someone else and it could make their day. Kindness is free.    -Al

Thursday, September 11, 2014

The Lost Sheep

My family and I had the First discussion with Sister Missionaries. What a wonderful experience this was. The story of the lost sheep touched my heart. The story goes, there is a shepherd with a flock of 100. There was 1 lost sheep. The shepherd leaving the 99 sheep went to find the 1 lost sheep. We are all lost at one time or another and the savior is willing to come find us. We need to open to the lords help. The spirit was so strong as these sisters taught us the basics of the gospel. This is going to be an awesome experience and with the end goal in mind. We have been found. Love K

Saturday, September 6, 2014

Hug The People You Love

Some people say that a picture is worth a thousand words. That may be true but I think a hug means a thousand words. When there are no words to say, a hug can change a person. I haven't always been a "huggy person." But now that I am, I can see the difference in my everyday life. I think everyone needs a hug. When someone hugs me, I know they love me because I can just feel it. This simple act can change a persons whole day.  So go hug someone you love today. It'll change their day I promise.

Thursday, September 4, 2014

Life is delicate and fragile

Today I learned of a sweet niece of mine that tragically lost her life this week. It has weighed heavy on my heart at how fragile life can be. I want to hug my family that is hurting so bad from this tragic event and wanting to be of some comfort. They are on the East Coast and I am on the West there is too much distance and my arms won't reach that far. Thoughts keep running through my mind of how delicate we can be. This past month I was put in a situation similar to this with my own family. Not realizing the impact that depression can have on person and their struggles to survive these trials that we go through in this life. I did everything in my power and took as many precautions to change the end result. When I was told that I did not have the power over another. I then realized that you physically can not help another if they want to take their life. But, You can unconditionally love another and be the strength that they need to survive. Always follow your heart when you are tempted to say Hi to a stranger or check up on a neighbor. Don't be afraid to be a helping hand or just somebody to talk to. But most of all love your fellow man. We are here and we all need help at one time or another. Let's make an effort to go out of our way for another, it is never convenient and life gets to busy but, we can make a difference in another's life if we just take the time.

Love K

Wednesday, August 27, 2014

Humble Heart

The last few weeks I have been reading in the bible of the great kings of Israel. I found that they were great men that became prideful and then failed as Kings. It is hard sometimes to be accepting of help. We need to be humble and say Thank You! By letting others serve us we can let them feel the kindness of a selfless act. The huge difference you can make by just saying Hi to someone as you pass or Writing a note of appreciation to a loved one. A humble heart is a helpful heart. I recently became to prideful to hear an answer to a prayer. I kept saying "no we are fine" when we were struggling. After the third time I began to listen. I can't keep saying no when Heavenly Father has put the answer right before me. If we can just humble ourselves and listen to these answers. He loves us and promises we will never go hungry. Let someone else get the blessings by serving you.

Love K 

Sunday, August 17, 2014

Prayer

     Today I learned that Heavenly Father loves me. He is watching out for me and he knows every single thing I do.  When I am struggling, all I need to do is pray. Heavenly Father will answer my prayers at the right time, even if it isn't what I expect. I have been taught this concept my whole life and I've tried to believe it. Today I finally learned it for myself. I saw a miracle happen right before my eyes. Prayer is the most powerful thing we have. Feeling the spirit is amazing. I have been taking it for granted but I'm going to try to be better. No matter what mistakes you have made, Heavenly Father loves each and every one of us no matter what. Love, Al.

Wednesday, August 13, 2014

Answers to a Prayer

A wonderful friend of ours listened to the spirit as he just sent my husband a text. It was a video from 

Spencer W. Kimball, in a session of conference, ask that God would give him mountains to climb. He said: “There are great challenges ahead of us, giant opportunities to be... ...that exciting prospect and feel to say to the Lord, humbly, ‘Give me this mountain,’ give me these challenges.” mountains 


Watch this link below. 

  • www.lds.org/media-library/video/2013-01-003-mountains-to-climb

  • This touched my husband as he watched choking up with the realization who he had to help him through this hard trial he was given. Our dear savior will help lift us up and comfort us. With the faith in Jesus Christ we will gain a better understanding of the path we need to follow here on earth. The knowledge that we have of receiving that perfect body in the next life comforts the ones who may not have the "so perfect body in this life." He truly loves us will help us, all we have to do is ask.
  • Tuesday, August 5, 2014

    Stumbling Blocks to Stepping Stones

    My family and I had the First discussion with Sister Missionaries. What a wonderful experience this was. The story of the lost sheep touched my heart. The story goes, there is a shepherd with a flock of 100. There was 1 lost sheep. The shepherd leaving the 99 sheep went to find the 1 lost sheep. We are all lost at one time or another and the savior is willing to come find us. We need to open to the lords help. The spirit was so strong as these sisters taught us the basics of the gospel. This is going to be an awesome experience and with the end goal in mind. We have been found. Love K

    Sunday, August 3, 2014

    Faith In Angels

     
    My sons Weston and Dakota were in a car accident an hour after I posted about my family. I got a call from Dakota and he said he was in an accident. I thought at first it was a fender bender. He said everyone was okay. I was a couple hours away and did a lot of praying in the ride down to meet them. As we drove the whole situation began to unfold. It was a semi they had hit. Thank goodness my parents lived 10 minutes from where they were taken in an ambulance. So they made sure they were okay. After hugging them and getting them checked out, I was thanking the angels that watched over them as they walked away with only concussions. No broken bones or blood. One little crack in the windshield. This put things into perspective that life is fragile and these children are a gift and a blessing from our Heavenly Father and they were protected for me.  

    Sunday, July 27, 2014

    Families Are Forever

    I love my family from the bottom of my heart. They are all so cute and sweet. Every single one of us have a huge heart and would never hurt anyone intentionally. As I was thinking today with all the trials we have been given to us that addiction and abuse has touched my family the most. As we come together to heal I did not realize that actions could effect the ones we love the most. I myself have struggled with addiction. I have done stuff in the past I would never want my children to do. My husband still struggles every day with addiction.

          All of my children which includes my step-children. I only point out this because Weston and Trinity have been affected from two parents that struggle with  addiction. There mom who definitely has a good heart but has made some terrible decisions that left her unavailable to her children. My two children Alexis and Dakota also had a parent walk away from terrible decisions. To watch these young men and women walk on a path so different from their parents and make right choices because of what they have seen. They are not perfect by any means, they still don't do their chores when asked. But they are responsible, loving, caring and friendly and my prayer for them is to follow a different path.

          I had an answer to a prayer at one time in sacrament meeting. A still small voice said to me "She is my daughter you need to take care of her." At the time we were going to adopt a troubled 16 year old who's parents were dissolving their parental rights. I started to doubt what I heard and the voice became louder and said again louder. "She is my daughter and you need to take care of her." I looked around to see if anyone heard this. I finally realized that this was the answer to adopt Cassidy. Cassidy right before we adopted her ran away. I was so disappointed because the answer was so clear that day.

           I realized a little while later the answer wasn't about Cassidy at all it was about my beautiful step daughter Trinity. He has given me that wonderful spirit to take care of. This can be the most amazing gift that heavenly father could give us. The responsibility to teach his children to follow and love him. I have a testimony of the power of the atonement.  We can be forgiven of the stupid decisions we make as parents that affect the ones we love. It is that unconditional love a parent has for a child, heavenly father has for us. We can be FORGIVEN for what we have done. All we have to do is let him in.


    Love,
    K

    Tuesday, July 22, 2014

    Perspective

    Perspective is a wonderful thing when one has it. When one does not have perspective it can be debilitating. Addiction takes away a persons perspective. For the addict their perspective is solely on the next high whatever that is. Relationships, work, family, the most important things in life take a back seat to the addition. Perspective on the most important thing in life is lost.

    For the loved one of the addict perspective can also be lost. The loved one of the addict is often the one that takes care of the day to day needs of the family. This becomes a very heavy burden. The loved one can become lost so much in the day to day worries that they may lose site of their own value and worth. Dealing with an addict is hard work and doing this for a long period of time takes it's tole on a person. The addict can be ruthless to the loved ones self esteem. They will say or do almost anything to get their next high.

    In my experience something that gave me back my perspective is friendship. Getting away from the addict and my responsibilities for a short time helped me to see the world in a new way with new perspective. It helped me to be able to go back to my responsibilities with a new vision. Talking with others, doing something for myself, taking a walk all helped me gain a new perspective.

    Monday, July 21, 2014

    The Wrong Way

    I have to share this saying because it actually sums up what I feel after today.

    "If everything is going your way, you are probably headed the wrong direction."

    This even made me giggle because today I felt like I was going in reverse. Every thing I did or said had the total opposite affect. I am still not sure what happened but I do remember a family torn and words said that shouldn't have been said. How do you fix that? Is their kind words of forgiveness. This brings back memories of my father coming in to tuck us into to bed especially if we were in trouble. He could not go to bed mad. He would come in and pat us on the back and kiss our heads and say he was sorry. I want my children to know that I love them dearly and I am really sorry that they get pulled into grown up stuff. I am now going to kiss my kids on the head and tell them good night. Love You Padre.

    Love K

    Therapeutic Animals♥

    Being one of the youth representatives is such a great honor.
    Growing up with alcohol and drug abuse was and still is a really big challenge. I grew up in terrible conditions, trailer homes and houses that were barely referred to as houses. Whenever I needed someone to turn to or just a simple friend, I would turn to animals. All of my life I had at least one cat (yes I guess I could be a cat lady), they are some of the most compassionate animals and that thought has never left my mind. I also got unconditional love from dogs, horses and birds. It seems silly but animals are better than people. I believe that any one can see animals with a clear perspective and open mind. Animals are there for us always and are very therapeutic. So never say that you have nobody on your side that is there for you or loves you because there always is. I guess it's a plus they are very cute.☺♥
    Trinity Merkey's photo.Jimmy♥/T

    Sunday, July 20, 2014

    Families are Forever Together

    I love that thought Families can be Together Forever. These two families have been blessed to find each other under the same circumstances. We have come together to help others with the same problems that affect almost every family in way or another. Addiction and Abuse is rampant in these latter days. We can be strong and overcome these trials.We are taking the trials in our life to bless others with support that you may need in the darkest hours. Even though we may not be biologically related but, we are heavenly related.

    Thursday, July 17, 2014

    Love Is The Key

         One thing I have learned from having a child with addiction is you cannot change them. They have to want to change themself. One of the very hardest things for a parent to do is watch their child hurt and go through pain. Addiction is hurt and pain. You can see the bad choices they are making but you cannot do anything about it. The one way I have found to get through the struggle is love. Love for your child. Even if they are not making good choices. One can always love the person and not their actions. Christ taught of love and how important it is in every aspect of life. By finding a way to love my daughter she was able to get help and I was able to get through it with her. Love is the key.
    Love Lesa

    Wednesday, July 16, 2014

    Find Hope in our Savior Jesus Christ

    Hope and Faith go together. I teach primary and we are always doing article of faiths. But this reminds me of the 13th Article of Faith.

    Pearl of Great Price 1:13

    We believe in being honest, true, chaste, benevolent, virtuous, and in doing good to all men; indeed, we may say that we follow the admonition of Paul—We believe all things, we hope all things, we have endured many things, and hope to be able to endure all things. If there is anything virtuous, lovely, or of good report or praiseworthy, we seek after these things

    We believe all things.........Hmmmm, that could mean Faith. We Hope all things. Hope to me is the help of a savior that knows me by name and loves me. We have endured many things. We are here because we have endured trials that has pushed us to our limit. But when things seemed the darkest our big brother Jesus was there. If we seek after good things that is when we will feel at peace. So we need to seek after things that are good and make us stronger.

    We are here Sisters and Brothers to help support each other through the journey in this life. We can Hope all things, We have faith in all things and will seek after good. Especially look for good in others that we may lift them up so we can all endure.

    Love,
    K

    Tuesday, July 15, 2014

    Slow Me Down

    I came across a poem today that stuck out to me: 
    "Slow me down, Lord, I am going too fast. 
    I can't see my brother as he goes past; 
    I miss a lot of good things day by day.  
    Including the blessings you send my way.  
    Slow me down, Lord, so I can see
    More of the things that are good for me;
    A lot less of me, so there'll be more of you,
    Let more of heaven come shining through,
    Let me help a brother when the going's rough
    When folks work together, things aren't so tough;
    Slow me down, Lord, so that I can talk
    with more of your angels...slow me down to a walk."

    My favorite part of this prayer is the phrase, "Slow me down, Lord so that I can talk with more of your angels." I look at these "angels" as the good people that i'm surrounded by everyday. The Lord has placed certain people in our lives so we can grow to be stronger and better people. All we have to do is open our eyes and slow down and try to find the good in everyone. Every person can teach us a lesson, good or bad. I have met people that I know are put in my life at a specific time for a reason. I am so grateful for the friends that I have met recently that have saved me. I am going to try to be more grateful for the blessings that I receive each day and for the strength I have to move on. With the Lords help, we can overcome anything. 

    Love, Al 

    Monday, July 14, 2014

    "Hope for New Beginnings"

    Today what has weighed heavy on my heart is the hope of a new beginning. What an amazing thing the gospel is and how forgiving our dear heavenly father is. With a humble and pure heart you can be forgiven of many things no matter how big or trivial you may think it is. We are given many trials on this earth to make us stronger. When deep in the middle of a trial I always think "Why Me". I think everyone has thought of that. But, if the whole world put their problems in the middle and we could take any problems that we wanted we probably would take our own right back. We now know what to do and how we can maybe help others along the way.

    Hope: Come to believe that the power of god can restore us to complete spiritual and emotional health.

    President Uchtdorf taught "The adversary uses despair to bind hearts and minds in suffocating darkness. Despair can seem like a staircase that leads only and forever downward. Hope has the power to fill our lives with happiness. Its absence - when this desire of our heart is delayed - can make "The heart sick."

    May we find hope together and realize we are not alone. This is a new beginning this day forward.

    Love K

    Thursday, July 10, 2014

    Answered Prayers

    Have you ever wondered if he is hearing your prayers or your just not getting the answers. Over the years I have pondered this a lot. Sometimes I would just give up and not actually pray all the way. I guess out of laziness. When I needed help the most I would plead for Mercy. I didn't ever quite understand that the choices of others would effect my world so much. It would come out in anger, For some reason I had justified it and thought I had every right to be angry. I would say things that were horrible and justify it was okay because their actions and choices I could not control. I once was sent to anger management by my bishop. I kind of chuckled, because, if you knew me I really was a softy. But there was two people in my life that could make me angry. Once I was at the doctors office with my husband to adjust his medication. I teased the doctor and said maybe if you medicated me his problems would go away. She looked at me and said when is your appointment. I followed up with her and she helped me. I am not going to say it was magic but, I am going to say it was an answer to my prayers. It was an answer that I didn't even think of, it just happened. I am not an angry person anymore and my head is not jumbled all the time. I actually listen to people when they talk (well for the most part). My kids still think I have selective hearing. It may not be the solution you were looking for, but, it may just surprise you. He hears, he is listening, and he cares for you more than anything and only wants us to be happy. We just need to search and most of all listen with a pure and humble heart and an open mind.  Love K

    Tuesday, July 8, 2014

    How living a christ like life can help ease the pain.

    While my basic motherly instinct is to fix everything and control others that are in "my bubble". At least that is what I refer to people who affect my life. I was for many years trying to correct or control the others around. I thought I was normal and had the right to do so. When my mother while on her mission sent me a statement from a prophet. It goes something like this......If you are trying to control another person and make them do or act a different way. We are taking away their free agency and that is Satan's plan." As I pondered this and practiced really really had not to be controlling. It worked to a certain degree. It took a lot of the guilt off of me and realized they needed to choose. Not always did they choose the way I would do but, it still was their choice.

    Practice makes progress..........

    Monday, July 7, 2014

    Drug and Alcohol Addiction

    My family has been touched by addiction in many ways. I am a recovering addict of drugs. My first husband was cross addicted to drugs and alcohol. After years of physical and emotional abuse I decided to break the cycle. I almost lost my life that day. A woman told me once "you just taught your son he can hit and your daughter that she could be hit." The thought mortified me and I had to fix this right away. My oldest became an addict and was in an IOP (Intensive outpatient program) for three years. He was in the court system most of his teen years. My husband now is a recovering alcoholic that is disabled by chronic pain. The struggle still remains with prescription drugs and the knowledge of having to live his life with pain. We are learning to just manage it with drugs.

    The Food Addict

    The addict can come in many shapes and sizes. My mother is a faithful religious wonderful woman who was overweight most of her life. She got help when a doctor sent her to Food Addicts Anonymous. She was on a couple mission in Washington DC for the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. Being on oxygen, pills and other stuff to keep her healthy. After going to meetings and having a sponsor she was able to loose 60 pounds. She was taken off of all the stuff the doctors had her on. She then came back home after fulfilling her mission. With no Food addicts meetings in the state of Utah she began her own meetings. With the faith of a father in heaven that heard her prayers found the strength to overcome the natural man.
    Here we are Sisters in Heaven with the support of a bigger family. Please share your stories and we can support you from someone that has been through it and still struggles. This is for Families of addiction and abuse. Everyone is close to someone who is an addict. It will effect you to your core. We gather today to rely upon a very forgiving heavenly father and a wonderful gospel. He hears your cries and can ease your pain. We just need faith and a lot of prayers.