When a loved one is an addict and you have no choice. I always feel all alone when my loved one is making a choice that is not exactly the choice I would want them too. I try to go on with life as I know it. But, when my husband drinks it feels like I just lost my best friend. I have this anger that builds up inside because I can't control another person but, at the time I wish I could. I say a ton of prayers mixed with tears hoping that I can find a little peace. My heart breaks knowing it's hard to make sense out of why they do it when they have people in there lives that care so much. You start to feel abandoned and build up walls so you can't be hurt again. I have a hard time not being pulled into an argument. But you can't negotiate with an addict of any sort. It pointless, that is why it's frustrating. It can really get you down. If you can turn your mind and heart to the savior he can help you find some peace and understanding. You have not control over another that is what Satans plan was control. Jesus's plan was to let everyone choose for themselves. Thumbing through the scriptures I came across 1 Peter 3, The heading stuck out like it was highlighted in florescent yellow.
In the heading it reads
Husbands and wives should honor each other.
What???????
But, what if one is making a bad choice???
Of course I want to know the answer.
Verse 1
Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husband; that, if any obey not the word they also may without the word be won by conversations of the wives.
hmmmmm.
Reading on....
8. Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous.
This is hard for me. I ain't gonna lie.
10. For he that will love life, and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil, and his lips that speak no guile:
I have been know to do that:
14. But and if ye suffer for righteousness sake, happy are ye: and be not afraid of their terror, neither be troubled.
18. For Christ also hath once suffered for sins, the just for the unjust, that he might bring us to God, being put to death in the flesh but quickened by the spirit.
This has helped me recognize we can still honor those who make bad choices because they may someday change. Jesus Christ suffered so we may have the atonement and a way to fix our wrongs. Just because someone makes a bad choice does not mean you don't honor them. but, be courteous and have good conversations not belittle out of anger and spite. That is not why we are here.
Love another today.....No matter the choice they make.
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